The 3 Worst Reasons to Get Married
A couple of weeks ago, I had a conversation
with one of my young mentees who was
sharing some of her frustrations with me. She
had been dating her boyfriend for several
years and was upset because, although she
felt she was ready to get married, he wasn’t.
Mind you, he had given her a promise ring and
had already stated that he intended to marry
her—when he had his life in order. And
knowing this young man personally, I knew he
was working toward doing just that.
So when I asked my girl why she was so
anxious to get married, her answer was along
the lines of, “I’m tired of living at home and just
think it’s time for us to be together.”
“So what makes you think you’re ready for
marriage?” To which she wasn’t sure what to
say. Instead she shrugged her shoulders and
was at a loss for words.
Her response m*de me realize how
misinformed and disillusioned many of us are
when we embark on probably the most serious
commitment we’ll ever make in our lives. If
any of the following apply to you, then maybe
you should reconsider your reasons for getting
married.
1. You want to escape your current
environment. Many of us have grown up in
homes that were less than ideal. In our attempt
to get away from uncomfortable, and even,
painful situations, we look at our mates as a
lifeline. If there’s one thing I’ve learned, the
pain you think you’re escaping will only find its
way into your relationship if you don’t take the
time to deal with it.
2. You are looking for someone to complete
you. Then you’ll be happy. If you’re not
content with where you are in life and
complete and whole before you get married,
you’re setting yourself up for failure. When you
look for someone else to fill the hole only God
can, you’re expecting the impossible and
inviting the inevitable. The person you’re
looking to complete you will never meet up to
your expectations, through no fault of their
own.
3. You want to do it to please your parents. So
often, as children, we seek our parents’
approval of the choices we make: whether it’s
the clothes we wear, our hairstyle, school of
choice, or friends. It only makes sense that we
would do the same for the man or woman we
intend to spend the rest of our lives with.
However, although it’s ideal for your future
spouse to be compatible with your family, it
shouldn’t be the only reason you decide to
marry this person. After all, it’s you, not your
parents, who will have to wake up next to them
every morning.
When you finally make the decision to commit
your life to the person you are meant to spend
the rest of your life with, make sure it’s
because you’ve prayed about it and have
taken the time to do the work on yourself so
that you’re coming into the relationship whole,
healed and happy.
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